Before you get all excited and think that I have just given you permission to screw up…hold your horses young lady. All my other advice about doing good, leading by example still holds true.
But, when you screw up (and you WILL screw up), one of the most important things that you need to learn is how to recover grace-fully. I’m not talking about the way you might jump up after fallling on your face when you tripped over some imaginary thing in the middle of the floor (after all, you ARE my daughters, so this is bound to happen). Don’t get me wrong, that kind of recovery is also important. Hint: jump up, look around and if nobody is looking, just go about your business and try not to limp. If someone saw you, then you just have to laugh. What else are you going to do? I also highly recommend telling as many people as possible about your fall. It makes for great conversation and makes you seem more human. (I’ve had lots of practice with this.) But I digress…
As you grow up and move away from the safety of home, remember that it is always important for you to have an escape route. Know your plan B and when you will execute it. What I am really talking about is learning to recognize that you have made a mistake and learning to recover without digging a deeper hole. You see, we are human and we have a really hard time admitting when we are wrong. Sometimes we become so committed to our mistake that we can’t see our way out. We throw good money after bad, both literally and figuratively. So stop the madness. Know that it is ok to be wrong. It is ok to screw up. Admit it, plan your escape, apologize and move on. Give yourself grace. Recover grace-fully.
Most important, never ever forget to apologize to those who your mistake has hurt. A genuine apology can right a whole lot of wrongs. Giving grace, accepting grace…recovering grace-fully.
Remember that mistakes are just mistakes. Don’t get them more power than that. For more on mistakes, refer back to this blog post.
Today’s post was inspired by a comment on yesterday’s advice by a blogger I just met.
I love grace – and doing things gracefully is good advice
I love grace too! It is the most precious gift…and will undoubtedly be mentioned often in this blog. 🙂
Thank you! I’m glad you were inspired. Pretty good advice for your daughters, too – to err is definitely human, you should confess, learn from it and move on!
I love this one.