Don’t judge the people who judge.
Doesn’t that sound crazy? But think about it. How many times do we talk about those terrible people who are so intolerant, who say horrible things, who just don’t get it? How many times do we describe someone else’s indignation and follow it by a comment, like, “REALLY?!??” or “Get a life!” We pass judgment on their judgment and somehow we think we are better than them.
When you see people carrying their Anti-Whatever banners and yelling in the street about a cause you don’t agree with, stop and think about it. If you judge them, if you scoff, or call them crazy, or get upset about how very wrong they are…how are you any different than them? Does being right make you right? Is your indignation more righteous than theirs? Does your opinion matter more than theirs? Are your values more important to you than theirs are to them?
So before you judge, stop. What would happen if you stopped for a minute and asked them a question? I’m not talking about the kind of question that has judgement attached like, “How can you THINK that?” but the kind of quesiton that really seeks to understand like, “Tell me why this is important to you.” Maybe by your question, you will get a question back. Instead of a righteous battle of wills and voices, you can create a dialog. And maybe that dialog will lead to an understanding that we are mostly the same. Maybe that understanding will lead to a more courteous exchange of ideas where compromise is born.
But first you have to stop with the judging the judgmental, stop hating the haters, stop yelling at the yellers. Stop.
Do you think you can do it?
How about now?