It is kinda weird isn’t it? You’ve never been the only child. From the day you came into this world, you have always been the little sister. Because you weren’t my first, I didn’t have to figure it out as I went along (at least not as much), I relaxed a little more, and I learned from my mistakes. I enjoyed your “firsts” differently because I knew they would be the last. Your first steps were my LAST first steps. I was in no hurry for them to get here because for every first you had, I had to say good-bye to something that I would never get back. So I cherished the moments differently (maybe better) and I got to treasure all the ways that you were different than your sister, which ignited that awe of discovery in you, even though you weren’t my first. I didn’t rush you to the next stage because I knew that it was important for to enjoy every fleeting moment. And as you navigated the world, you always had your sister by your side. During good times and bad, whether you were getting along or not, she was here.
Now, as your sister prepares to leave the nest, you have to contemplate this space without her. You have to figure out how to be the only child…the good (the extra attention) and the bad (the extra attention) and you have to experience life for the first time without you sister by your side. It will be weird at first, and sad. We will all miss her, and we will have to figure out how to be comfortable in the space that she occupied every day. But we will adjust. We will figure out how to keep her in our day to day life even when she is away, and you will get comfortable in this space….and you will shine.
All the comparisons that are a natural part of being sisters will fade away, and you will get to be truly you. You will get to be Becca. You will find your way and your style and your light will shine more brightly because it doesn’t have your sister’s shadow holding it back anymore.
The next 3 years are your time to find out who you are apart from your sister. You will come to love her in a different way, and appreciate the differences rather than feel diminished by them. You will figure out that your style and your personality and your talents are the very best thing you have to offer the world and the world will respond by welcoming you into the spotlight.
Despite my many conflicted emotions about your sister leaving, I am looking forward to watching you blossom and grow and shine. When you see my tears after your sister is gone, remember that I can be sad and grateful at the same time. I will be sad that she is gone, but grateful that you are here, and that we have this incredible opportunity to get to know each other in a new way.
Prepare you light and get ready to shine.