One of my friends and blog followers posted a comment on my post about being right, and that comment got me thinking. She said that she has been in situations over the last month that made her ask the question, “What do I want?”
Isn’t that brilliant? What if we asked that question in every situation, in every argument, every conflict, every moment of doubt or celebration? What do I want from this? What is my goal? What am I hoping to achieve in this conversation?
We may find that the answer is often that we want to prove a point or change someone’s mind or win. What do you REALLY want the outcome to be, not just in the discussion or event in question, but what do you want the impact on your relationship to be?
What if I asked that question of myself the next time I felt ready to nag or say (in one way or another), “I told you so.” What if the next criticism that is going to pass my lips first passes through the filter of “what do I want?” Is it still worth it when you think about it that way? Does winning or proving a point or changing a mind still have the same importance if you first ask, “What do I want?”
What do you want for others, and yourself, for your relationship? How important is THIS comment, this conversation, this point?
What do you want?
Shout out to Sara K. for the inspiration for this post!
From a beautiful source! Thanks Sara.
This is a great reminder to stay focused and not lose ourselves in the little things. “Choose your battles” comes to my mind, as sometimes I’m pretty sure I fight over things I never wanted in the first place. 🙂
Choose your battles is a great one. I might have to use it. 🙂 Thanks.