Walking away. Now this is a tough one.
This is follow up to yesterday’s advice.
Sometimes when you have done all the right things, and you have worked hard to clean up your messes, they still look like the “other brand” in the Bounty papertowel commercials. They are just a soggy, shredded mess. When that happens, your heart probably feels pretty shredded and messy too.
Sometimes you will try to fix something that isn’t fixable, not because your heart isn’t right, but because the other person’s heart is closed. And when that happens, you have to chalk up your losses and walk away. Before you do that, you need to forgive, because if you don’t, when you walk away you will carry that darkness in your heart. That darkness is a gift that keeps on giving, whether you like it or not.
So forgive, be grateful for the times when your relationship was good…and walk away.
There are some friends who enter your life for a reason. Others for a season. And the rarest and most precious of all, some who enter for a lifetime. You need to learn to recognize the difference, and give yourself permission to accept it for what it is. Each of these types of friendships is important and beautiful but will play a different role in your life. It is ok. The time you have with any friend is a gift. But sometimes, as hard as it will be, you will have to walk away. Walking away can be a lttle bit like friendship. Sometimes you will have to walk away for a reason, sometimes just for a season…and the rarest and hardest of all, sometimes for a lifetime.
Make no mistake…this advice will NEVER apply to your mother. Because no matter where you go, what you do, or what relationships you clean up or walk away from, I will never stop loving you. You will always be on the “worth it” list. No matter how big of a mess we might find ourselves in, I will never stop digging to get to you. And I will never, ever walk away.